RESOURCES
General Recommendations
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep – Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
The Happiness Trap – How To Stop Struggling & Start Living by Russ Harris
How To Do The Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heat From Your Past & Create Your Self by Dr. Nicole LePera
Radical Acceptance – Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha by Tara Brach, PhD
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff
You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
Grieving & Loss
The Grief Recovery Handbook by John James and Russell Friedman
On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler
On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler
Relationships
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep – Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver
What Makes Love Last: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John Gottman and Nan Silver
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin
Your Brain on Love – The Neurobiolgoy of Healthy Relationships by Stan Tatkin
Sexuality
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Couples Guide to Intimacy by Bill & Ginger Bercaw
Erotic Intelligence (Healthy Sexuality in Sex Addiction) by Alexandra Ktehakis
Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch
Shame & Vulnerability
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
I Thought It Was Just Me by Brene Brown
Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw
Family Shame by Merel Fossum and Marilyn Mason
Codependency
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
Codependents Guide to the Twelve Steps by Melody Beattie
Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Mille
Trauma
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk MD
Getting Past Your Past by Francine Shapiro
In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter A. Levine
It Didn’t Start With You – How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are & How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
Walking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine
What Happened To You – Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, & Healing by Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD and Oprah Winfrey
Sex Addiction 12-Step Groups & Local Therapy Groups
Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) – 12-Step Group
Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) – 12-Step Group
Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA) – 12-Step Group
Betrayal Trauma (Partners of Sex Addicts)
Betrayal Trauma Therapy Group & 12-Step Groups
Partners in Recovery with Jill Shirley at Full Heart Family Therapy – Therapeutic Process Group. Please contact Jill Shirley at 515-333-2229
S-ANON – 12-step support group for family members and friends impacted by people with sexually compulsive behaviors.
S-ANON in Des Moines - The Des Moines group meets every Tuesday from 7pm-8pm via Zoom. The meeting ID is 777 01715637 and Passcode is 2efRsF. There is a group email: tuesdaydmfamilygroup@gmail.com.
Circles of Support and Accountability (COSA) - A 12-step support for people whose lives have been impacted by sexually compulsive behaviors.
Betrayal Trauma Blogs
https://vickitidwellpalmer.com/blog/
https://risingabovebetrayaltrauma.com/blog
https://bloomforwomen.com/blog/
https://drsherikeffer.com/blog/
Betrayal Trauma Books
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means
A House Interrupted, A Wife's Story of Recovering from Her Husband's Sex Addiction by Maurita Corcoran
Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies, and Secrets by Claudia Black, PhD
Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes, PhD
Facing Heartbreak by Stefanie Carnes and Mari A. Lee
Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts by Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW, CSAT, LCSW, CSAT, CCPS-C, PCC and Christine Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSW, LCAS
Unleashing Your Power – Moving Through the Trauma of Partner Betrayal by Carol Juergensen Sheets, ACSW, LCSW, CSAT, CCPS-C, PCC
Surviving Disclosure by Jennifer Schneider & Deborah Corley
Sexual Anorexia by Patrick Carnes